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Wednesday, April 22, 2009
Daily lessons in humility
Here is my question, can a wife (let alone a mother, which I'm not, obviously) really be all of these at once: working outside the home (20+ hours), keeping a clean house, cooking healthful meals, maintaining a frugal budget, and being the best help-meet to her husband? I may be new at all of this, but I'm falling short. I wish I was Wonder Woman around here and had everything under control. I sure don't. I try. But I don't seem to succeed. Ah, humility.
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Well, in one sense, even with the best scenario ever, none of us will ever measure up to being the best mother/wife/homemaker, etc. On the other hand, from how hard it is without a job to do everything, working outside the home definately makes it a lot more challenging -- time, fatigue, etc. My hat is off to those of you who manage to work and cook dinner (and sometimes clean)!
this struggle is the story of my life. i think especially with the working it's hard to find the energy for everything else. i keep hanging my hopes on "one day"... but i suppose by then you and i will each have a herd kids and even less time...right?:)
i'm trying to learn to be realistic with myself... not be over ambitious about what i can accomplish (easier said than done). some days i just have to come home and relax the whole evening-- other times i'm suprisingly productive.:) nothing makes me happier than when i plan ahead and have a crock pot meal ready to go... unfortunately i'm not very good at the whole planning thing...:)
(ok, so this sharing of my thoughts turned into a little mini-post... hope you don't mind:)
Thanks for the comments. I appreciate knowing I'm really not alone in this struggle. :) And Liz, I never mind mini-post comments!
This is the biggest lie I've had to overcome in adulthood, and I'm not even married (yet) let alone a mom! I always feel like I should be able to be everything to everybody and I'm very slowly learning that this will just never be. Glad I'm not alone :)
Makes you appreciate your own mother, yes? I've been at the wife/mom thing for a while now, and there is always the challenge of balance. The best thing I've learned is to take good care of yourself above all, no matter how hard that may be, and the rest will fall into place - in its own way, a way that works for you and your family. It won't look like anybody else's life, and that's okay. Be kind to you. And don't hesitate to delegate or ask for help or sometimes decide what's more important at the time. Sometimes it's most important to have a special moment with your love. Sometimes, people are coming over and you'd better get the dirty dishes done. Sometimes, you need your own space. I'm no expert at balancing, but I'm learning. You will, too. And remember, your time is YOURS. Don't let anyone take it for granted.
I feel this every day, too, Steph. I don't know how we're supposed to accomplish this.
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